Todays funk....

Just thought I'd post a little on todays mood.... Todays mood is frustration. Please understand I know this is to be expected, but accepting it is another thing. Especially knowing that it's totally out of our control, we are both feeling a little down. The last month has proven to be completely uneventful. Not a single referral. So we still sit at #2 for a boy and #7ish for a girl. At the same time I know there are some NRI families very close to getting on the waiting list. If this happens before we get a referral, we will move backwards. I am completely fine that part, we understand that's what is required. But at the same we know we are so close that if the referrals would start moving, we could potentially have our child home by Christmas.

On a lighter note, Ahly has totally decided that she is NOT sharing a bedroom. The brother or sister must sleep with Mommy and Daddy. (honestly with everything in her room I don't know where we will put another one) Don't get us wrong, we have another room all ready - but we're just not comfortable with either of them being so far away from our bedroom :-0

This last weekend we played our video for her of when we were in India to become a Forever Family. She is completely obsessed with it. She has to play it after her naps, when she wakes up the morning and as soon as she's in the house. She doesn't make a sound - just sits quietly taking in everything. I've heard that at the age of 3 they really start understanding the high levels of adoption - now I am waiting for the questions to flow...... For the most part she hasn't questioned much of anything.

The summer is proving to be very eventful for the family - first to restart camping - FINALLY! 2nd we are going to see my sister in MI and will be taking the Ferry across Lake Michigan. Could be interesting as I've never been on a large boat or large body of water for that matter. Then late summer or fall we are hoping to get this princess to Disney World. We are moving ahead with this intention, but should a referral come by then it could be delayed a year. Which would not be a bad thing!!!

More as it comes....

It's raining boys! Hallelujah! It's raining boys!

Just wanted to give a quick update that the only family in front of us that was open to a boy, accepted a referral of a boy last week. Meaning we are next in line for a baby boy. We are so excited for them - I actually let out a scream when I read their e-mail that they had accepted the referral of a little boy. So odds are looking like we'll have the referral of a baby boy, but after 6 girls we could be blessed with a girl too......

Hopefully we'll have more to report soon!

Michele

Another step closer.

Well curiosity got the better of me and I had to find out if there had been any progress on the waiting list. And to my surprise, we had moved up 1 position on the non-NRI list. Now #5!!!!! There are still 4 on the NRI (nonResident Indian) list, but that means we're at #9 not #10 overall. Yeah - single digits!

Honestly, it's baby steps - - but aren't baby steps really fitting for this process :)

Michele

Big girl now at 3

Wow what a weekend. Our baby is now 3. Where has the time gone? She is turning into such a little lady. We had a fun filled weekend. She got to spend some good time with her 2 cousins (3 and almost 2) with two nights of a slumber party! Not the smartest thing to do when it's a busy weekend - but they sure enjoyed it!

She had friends and family, Godparents, Grandparents and Aunties - all there to help us celebrate a big day.

At the same time, we couldn't help but think about Ahly's birth mother. What was she doing today, was she thinking about her? We can only hope that she knows how grateful we are to have Ahly in our lives. It had to be the hardest thing she'd ever done, that took so much courage. We pray for her on this day.

Here is a new family picture:

One from her daycare birthday part:

Update and story

First we'll give everyone the update. The India program has had some changes to it. On Wednesday we were given an update on the process. The process itself is remaining the same, so far. However the time lines have changes, we now could potentially be waiting 18-24 months for a referral. (Starting from when we got on the list in October) So, there is every chance that we may not even get a referral this year :( This is caused mainly by two reasons. First there aren't as many referrals coming out of India as expected. (adoption within the country is becoming more acceptable, and therefore, more domestic adoptions are being done) 2nd, there are more Indian couples within the US that are also adopting. India's rules are that if one spouse is of Indian descent that they be given preference. So as that list continues to grow, our list stays put...... I can completely agree with the reasoning for this, but it doesn't make the wait any easier. OK enough of my pity party - we know that God will make it known when our child is meant to be!

On a slight humorous note: this actually happened a while ago, and after telling some people about it I thought I better get it written down some where so that we can look back and laugh!

For those of you that don't know us well my husband is an avid hunter. When Fall comes he could practically live in the woods. (basically September through November)

So for the story: Ahly was very intrigued by Baby Jesus this Christmas, after mass we always had to go and get a closer look. After Christmas, when the Church was cleared of the manager and figurines, Ahly would constantly ask - "where Baby Jesus go?" We would always say "Baby Jesus is in Heaven now." Typically it was just "OK, Mommy". Then one day while taking her to daycare the issue came up again. It went something like this:
A: Where Baby Jesus Go"
M: Heaven
A: Why
M: God needed him in Heaven.
A: Where his Mommy?
M: In heaven too.
A: Me go to Heaven?
M: Yes, but not for a long time.
A: Mommy too?
M: Yes Mommy and Daddy too.
A: Not Daddy...
M: WHAT???
A: Not Daddy..... Daddy go hunting......

Where that correlation came in I cannot figure out, but it's so cute to see how they see/interpret things.

By the way - bring on Spring we were at -17 this morning.....

Michele